Premarital Counseling – Estonian Style

July 13, 2015 Guests 1 comment

Dear Arne,
Thank you for asking for my blog, whatever that is. I immediately had a subject in mind.

58 years ago, as we were about to be married, the Estonian Pastor Kiviranna invited dad and me to his home for a premarital lecture. All in Estonian. That is what you are pushing. It worked in our case would you not agree.

Among the expected teachings, Pastor Kiviranna changed his demeanor and said to us in English “In every marriage there are three rings. First comes the engagement ring, then the wedding ring and then the suffering.”

Totally unexpected and very funny, we thought. What came to mind is not only the joke but also the fact that we were invited to his home to hear his advice on married life.

Lots of love.
Ema.

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  • YYG: Your Marriage. Your Family. God's Design.
    on July 13, 2015 Reply

    My Mom & Dad have been married since 1957 making 2015 their 58th year together. Last Summer, when I was producing YYG Radio, I had the privilege of interviewing them for our “Celebrating the Marriage Covenant” series. Truth is, having the opportunity to do that is a gift very few people have in their lifetimes. You can check out the interview under the YYG Radio tab, The CELEBRATING the MARRIAGE COVENANT Series, dated 0809.

    Mom has written and beautifully illustrated a couple books and her Dad also dabbled in high-minded writin’ & conversatin’. Clearly, the genetic code that leads me to do this comes from her. So I asked her for a GuestBlog article. She sent this cute memory of their Premarital Counseling episode with their Pastor.

    It really is very sweet to me when my Dad shows his tenderness [hey…this is a Civil Engineer we’re talking about here!] He and I talked after he e-mailed Mom’s article because to him “suffering” had so much more to it. He spoke at length about the hurt he felt when he knew his child or wife was suffering with their pains.

    I wonder how much more hurt he felt because his Northern European upbringing wouldn’t allow him to show anything but stoic. In that environment, there was hardly any affection. How do you show love if you haven’t seen/heard/felt love?

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